alkisah maid

ada beberapa org jugak yg tanya aku, mcm mana kekdahnyer ada maid, mcm mana aku handle maid aku, ok ke idak, u know, benda2 cenggitu. disebabkan my first maid tahan dgn aku for 5 years, and my current maid dah duduk dgn aku for 3 years.. so most of them perceive yang aku ni sgt lucky sebab dpt maid yg bagus.

what you people dont know is that the tahap kesabaran yang aku ada, and what actually are the things that i have to deal with every single freaking day.

bukan senang, nak ambik a foreigner, ntah sapa2 pulak kan, duduk dgn kita. duduk serumah pulak tuh. basically jadi part of our family. and true, bukan senang nak treat dia as part of our family. kekdg ada kes yg kita dah layan elok2 mcm family, naik kepala pulak kau kan.. kang treat mcm hamba, kata kejam pulak kan? memang susah.

tapi i always believe that kita mmg mcm mana pun kena anggap maid tu part of our family. unless klu ada yg dtg pagi balik petang, yg jenis ni senang kau nak treat mcm pekerja. tapi klu dah kes duduk satu rumah, nak tak nak, sedikit sebyk mmg kena anggap mcm family.

mcm maid aku yg skang ni, agak berumur. so dia anggap aku ni mcm anak dia, and dia mmg sayang btul dgn anak2 aku. tapi bila dah anggap kita ni mcm anak dia, dia punya membebel tu.. mak aihhh.. mengalahkan mak aku okeh. in fact, mak aku pun tak de membebel mcm gitu.

sakit telinga, sakit jiwa, tell me bout it. kekdg aku rasa mcm nak tepek masking tape je kat mulut dia. kekdg sampai 10-15 minit she can talk NON STOP. i kid you not. seriously. balqis pun selalu buat muka bila maid start membebel, aku normally suruh dia buat dek je.

tahan je la beb.. nak buat mcm mana lagi kan?

tu belum masuk part dia suka buat muka masam and terasa sensitip unnecessary. org tua kan.. tak boleh salah cakap sikit, dia tarik muka masam and terasa yg  bukan2. aihhh.. kita pulak kena jaga hati dia kan? tak boleh nak ditegur lebih2. terasa bukan  main.

nak harap keje elok, tak de la perfect mana. berhabuk je lagi rumah aku. dah nama org tua, buat keje pun slow. maid aku yg dulu, weekend tu mmg rilek habis, sbb during weekdays itself dia dah siap kemas cuci satu rumah, and gosok baju. maid yg ni, cuci rumah and gosok baju dia buat on weekends. pas tu satu hari suntuk dia kemas rumah, satu hari suntuk lagi dia gosok baju.

giler slow okeh buat keje.

tapi ada aku kisah? ada aku marah? tak de.. aku tak pedulik. kau buat la at your own pace. aku tak pernah nak push. tapi yang aku nak hangin kekdg dia pulakkkk yang komplen, penat keje, hari2 ada je keje, tak de cuti, weekend lagi bertambah penat.

aihhh.. dah kau buat keje slow, sapa suruh?

pas tu tak habis2 nyalahkan sofeya yg mengada, dia langsung x boleh buat keje. bukan ke kau jugak yg manjakan budak tu since kecik?

nyalahkan orang mmg nombor satu.

gelas/pinggan mangkuk pecah, sofeya main
air tumpah, balqis buat
vacuum rosak, sofeya buat

pendek kata, semua salah org. diri sendiri tu perfect sgt!

considering these, aku mmg selalu sgt rasa nak hantar je dia balik. byk kali aku rimas and tensen and sakit jiwa sbb dia.

tapi bila memikirkan dia jaga anak aku elok, dia sayang anak2 aku mcm anak sendiri,
considering dia tak pernah nak mencuri / menipu (i think la),
considering dia sangat penyabar nak jaga sofeya yang kuat mengamuk

aku pun menyabarkan je la hati.

sabar konot, sabar...

after all mmg tak boleh dpt maid yg perfect. like mr p selalu  kata, apa yg kita nak sebenarnya. pada aku, mmg aku nak maid utk tlg tgkkan anak2 while aku kuar bekerja. so, alhamdulillah aku dpt yg sayang and boleh harap jaga anak aku.

benda2 lain, mcm kemas rumah tak brapa nak elok, membebel, sensitif, keje lembab, i guess aku kena sabar kan je la kot. tutup la sebelah mata.

ni je la.. aku punya tips (if i may say that) and experience in handling maid. mmg kesabaran tu tahap maksima la.  sometimes ni one of the reason aku malas nak ada baby lagik. sebab aku penat dah fikir sapa nak jaga anak aku lagi (kalau ler maid aku ni nak balik terus kan).

sofeya dah semakin besar and pandai sikit, alhamdulillah. dlm 1-2 tahun lagi aku rasa kalau nak hantar nursery or tukar maid pun Insya Allah tak de masalah. tu yg aku contemplating kalau nak branak lagi..cemaner?

unless la aku dok umah full time, branak lagi 5 pun aku sanggup beb!!

LIMA????

*pengsan*

Apa rasa?

2 hari lepas aku masak ayam kicap. Teringat the one that my former maid, kak rahsia buat dulu, sgt sedap. Tumis bwg, cili, then tambah kicap. Sgt sedap ok.
So aku pun buat, and Mr Photographer loves it.

So yesterday, he asked me to cook it again..

Lepas makan semlm, maid aku tanya “ini apa?”

Aku pun cakap  "masak kicap.. mcm semlm"

Pas tu dia masuk dapur and membebel "semlm saya rasa masamm.. masinnn… yada yada yada"

SO ??

Laki aku suka kan?

Abih nko ingat aku masak nak ikut selera nko ?

Kalau aku tampar muka nko agak2 apa rasa?

p/s

1. ni adalah antara benda2 kecik yg EVERYDAY aku kena hadapi and terpaksa bersabar

2. sorry, if im a bit kasar.. aku tak de nyer tampar org betul2. anak pun aku tak pernah jentik. But i need to let things out.. otherwise sket lagi aku masuk spital sakit jiwa.

Now here’s the thing.

Ye lah as some of you may have guessed, aku mmg nak sgt la berenti keje. Mmg la dok rumah 24/7 mengadap membelek anak2 tu adalah kerjaya idaman saya. Selepas almost 10 yrs slaving myself to the corporate world, perasaan nak berenti keje tu makin lama makin membuak2, menggebu2.

But before aku membebel further, let me clarify that ini baru planning stage, aku blum ader concrete decision.

Every morning aku bangun nampak anak2, I hate myself coz I have to leave them to the maid, missing the precious moments yg aku sepatutnya spent dgn diorang.


I know some if you may disagree, especially yg dah mmg jadi housewife. Adik ipar aku sendiri, dulu elok2 housewife, pas tu menggelupur nak nak keje, aku cakap toksah keje, do something from home jer. Tapi noooo, dia nak jugak.. skang ni dah keje, dok komplen plak sibuk, stress, baik la dok umah.


TOLD YA! Hehehheeh jgn marah wahai adik ipar ku


So aku dok pk la all these while kenapa lah aku nak sgt2 berenti keje jaga anak, these are the reasons.


NUMBER ONE
First and the main reason (main like 80% of the factor), aku nak jaga anak2 sendiri. Nak diorang membesar depan mata. Nak diorang makan masakan aku. Nak mandikan diorang everyday. Nak tgk each and every milestone. Nak teach them new things everyday myself.


Dgn balqis dulu.. aku balik keje.. maid tunjuk aku “tgk la..balqis dah pandai cakap 1,2,3 sampai 10”


Sofeya ni pun.. maid yg byk ajar dia..tunjuk mata cantik la.. panggil meow la.. itu ini.


Sedih tak bila org gaji yg ajar anak benda2 gitu?


Pas tu, aku observe, anak2 yg membesar dgn mak diorang kat rumah, will grow up to be very obedient, polite, sayang and ingat mak bapak, well behaved. Example? Byk lah example aku tgk. Anak2 kak ani one of them. Mmg aku salute tgk perangai anak2 dia, sgt well behaved, be it kat rumah org, atau rumah sendiri.


Aku tak mau tunggu sampai balqis dah besar, belasan tahun, baru aku nak berenti keje jaga anak. Aku takut by then it’ll be too late.


Ni pasal anak, belum pasal suami lagi. Balik rumah, aku penat. Semua nak attention aku. Sofeya jerit nak nenen, balqis rengek nak aku dgr dia cerita, alih2.. Mr Photographer jugak tersisih. Kesian ok.


Aku nak masak, layan suami aku elok2. Ni nak ambikkan suami air pun, penat, apa lagi nak masak utk dia kan ?


Sebab tu wahai kawan2.. Islam tu dah cukup cantik. Mmg dah diajar, isteri tu tempat nya dirumah, jaga rumahtangga, jaga anak2, jaga kebajikan suami. Suami tu mmg tanggungkawab dia mencari rezeki.


So kita2 ni, para isteri pun sibuk nak cari rezeki. Sudahnya anak2 org lain jaga. Nasib baik la suami tak de org lain jaga hehhehe


Eh dah melalut sgt dah aku ni.


NUMBER TWO
Ni tak lain tak bukan.. sbb aku NYAMPAH nak keje…


And that explains why I keep on changing my jobs every 1-2 yrs. I tell you, 10 yrs aku keje, dah 7 tempat okeh.. TUJUH. SEVEN.


Paling lama was 3 yrs.
Paling kejap was 17 mths, well so far la ngahnagahanahgahag,
Kampeni skang baru 11 mths, let’s see if I can break the record kuikuikui


Well of course, we change jobs for better opportunity (and better money). Tapi aku mesti rasa mcm tak puas bila keje. Ada jer yg tak kena.


Sampai bila la asyik nak tukar keje kan? Lagi tukar keje, lagi tinggi gaji, lagi tinggi responsibility, which translates to lagi busy and kurang la time aku dgn anak2.


Paling aku nyampah keje dgn org, specifically corporates ni pasal I am bound to their rules and regulation. Yg PALING aku nyampah is the kipas and berlakon attitude.


Entah la I think I kenot fit in corporate environment. Sini are full of ppl yg pandai lick ass, yg buat keje kena kecoh bagi sumerang tau, yada yada. Me? Aku tak reti. Aku dpt keje, aku buat diam2. Habis, aku bagitau boss. Dah. Aku mmg lurus bendul.


Which explains why aku tak pernah dpt promotion masa aku kat maybank dulu. There and then i decided, nak tunggu promotion mmg berjanggut tunggu, so i might as well promote myself. Tu yg job hop tak hengat.


Part berlakon pulak lagi aku x tahan. Klu dah tak de keje, tak de urgent deliverables, BALIK la kan?


Ni taaakkkkkkkkk.. klu ofis hour sampai 5.45, some bosses expects you to stay back, at least pun sampai kol 7. Some ppl ada mindset, lagi lama ko dok ofis, the better employee you are.


Ptuihhhhhhhhhh


Ingat aku tak de keje lain? Ingat aku x de anak2 nak ngadap?
Lain la klu ada keje urgent, then i dun mind la nak stay back. Bukan x pernah, dah puas aku berkampung kat ofis kdg2.

Aku tak leh terima lah culture mcm ni. Masa aku keje kat PJ dulu, ada ofismate aku ni (bujang la), everytime aku tanya dia “balik ke?” (masa tu dah kol 6 la kan) and you know what he answered?


Him : Tak lah… I P Ramlee…
Me : huh?? What P Ramlee?
Him : P Ramlee la… berlakon maaa.. balik laambat sbb berlakon rajin maaa


Ehhehhe... see?? Betapa tak produktif nyer org... balik lambat bukan buat keje, tapi berlakon rajin sbb nak please the blardy boss.


Some ppl lagik la.. during ofis hours nko surf la, email la, chat la, ngular la.. pas tu sharp kol 6 dan dan tu rajin buat keje.


Cam tu ke the kind of employee nko nak ?


Aihhh..sudahla merapu pasal keje.. buat aku lagi tensen jer..

Okeh reason NUMBER THREE (or mebbe ini number two kot..)
Aku tak pernah puas hati dgn maid. So far aku pernah ada 2 maid, yg dulu 5 tahun kje dgn aku, since balqis lahir lagi. Then current one dah nak masuk 2 tahun.


Yes, I have to admit their plus point. Both of them mmg jaga anak aku superb. After all mmg itu their primary responsibility.


Yg dulu, jaga anak, keje rumah mmg tip top. Klu appraisal tu, part keje mmg aku kasik significantly exceeded hahahah.. TAPI. Part attitude dia aku tak tahan.. dgn menipunya.. dgn cakap kasar and kuat nya.. hadoiiii.. sakit jiwa ok.


Yg ni plak, keje.. hmm.. aku kasik below average la… mmg tak bley multitask. Klu jaga sofeya, jaga budak tu jer la. Sofeya tido, dia ikut tido. Weekend la baru kemas umah, gosok baju etc. Attitude pun so so lah.. Cuma so far dia tak pernah menipu aku lagik (I think la). Cakap kasar tu mmg tak leh buat apa dah.


Dah 2 maid aku..
2-2 tua bangka (umo 40 lebih).
2-2 cakap kasar mcm diorang boss


I think partly my mistake, pasal aku ni baik sgt. So I guess diorang ni mcm pijak kepala. Ntah la. Dgn maid ni u can never be right la. Ko layan mcm hamba, kang lari. Ko layan mcm family, naik lemak, pijak kepala.


Aku TIAP TIAP hari sakit jiwa ngadap maid aku. Everytime I have to ask her to do something, aku sakit jiwa memikirkan apa respond dia nanti. Mr Photographer said layan jer la.. buat tak tahu jer.


Well klu jumpa maid seminggu sekali aku buleh kot layan jer.. ni day in day out ngadap dia.. aku sakit jiwa tau. Unnecessary stress. But I have to endure, pasal aku pk dia jaga anak aku elok. And that is all important.




There.. valid ke reason aku nak berenti keje?


But then again.. there are also other factors I have to consire IF aku decide to resign, like

1. Aku nak buat apa? I dowan to just sit at home and be a SAHM (stay at home mothers) aku nak jadi WAHM (work at home mothers). Partly becoz I think I still have to contribute to out family punya financial, partly becoz aku rasa I NEED to do something to get my brain working. Klu idak, payah!


2. Can I do it? Aku ni idak ler penyabar sgt orgnyer. Dgn perangai anak2 aku yg buleh tahan ngada, sometimes aku temper jugak. Nasib baik sorang 6 tahun sorang baru 1 tahun. Klu dah besar, konfem kena backhand dah sorang2..hehehe. But then again, saya hanya manusia biasa. Sapa yg tak marah kan bila anak buat perangai. Ada ke org yg masih senyum ceria tatkala anak2 menangis menjerit berguling ditengah2 org ramai? Klu la ada, pls tell me, aku nak ambik personal course on anger mgmt. Tu satu. Then buleh ke aku handle the household ? Nak mengemas, mencuci, memasak etc. Bukan keje senang kan? Tambah pulak if I plan to work from home. Camner la aku nak divide masa?




The thing is now, kenapa suddenly aku dok pk menda ni seriously, is becoz my current maid, dah habis contract next april. The bengong agent, sampai ke sudah tak bagi2 the permit and the passport, keep on giving excuses after excuses. Sudahnyer dia cakap, klu nak sambung, we hv to pay him another RM3 ribu, she has to go back to indon, buat passport / permit baru.



We have the intention to sambung with this current maid (regardless her below average KPI) becoz kitorang pk sofeya kecik lagi. Pasal sofeya ni ada perangai dia yg aku takut org tak tahan nak jaga. Even aku mak sendiri pun kdg2 geram, ni plak org luar kan? Maunyer kena pukul kang anak aku tuh. This maid, sabor jer dgn sofeya no matter how the girl buli maid aku tuh.


But the fact that the maid has to go back, apply baru passport/permit, ntah approve ke tak kan? Berapa lama pun x tahu kan?


Meanwhile sapa nak jaga sofeya?


We were thinking of minta tlg Ayu (maid mak aku) jaga sekejap. BUT (there’s always but eh?) ayu ni tak pernah jaga budak kecik. Aku takut dia tak reti and tak sabo nak jaga sofeya. Mainly, aku takut Ayu ni tak nak jer jaga.



There another option of just getting a new maid. BUT
1. Ntah mcm mana perangai plak kang taktahu..
2. Bukan ke skang dah susah nak ambik maid..



So korang paham ke dilema aku skang ni?


Mr Photographer said (finally) its OK if i want to quit by april nanti, BUT i hv to think of something to do by then. Which means I have about 6 mths..


I am thinking of few alternatives...


So korang.. sila lah memberi buah fikiran anda.. supaya anak2 saya mendapat kasih sayang dari seorg ibu secukupnya..hehhehe

Finally an update!

Almost a mth eh? Sebelum terlupa..

Selamat Hari Merdeka..

Selamat Berpuasa...

I've been biiiiziiiiiiii... seriously.. (mcm ler anak 10 owang kann...)

but seriously...

Sofeya masuk spital.. :(

Dia batuk and flu.. check sana.. check sini.. ada clinic yg bodo... ada spital yg lima kali bodo kasik salah ubat.. yada yada yada... 28 - 30 august harituh admitted kat Ampang Puteri. Kena buat fisioterapi.. suction.. erks.. nangis aku ok dgr dia melalak kesakitan masuk tiub.. Sampai ke sudah aku tak tgk camner buat suction.. Mr Photographer jer yg masuk pegang sofeya.. i know.. i know.. aku mmg emo and lembik. When it comes to my children aku mmg tak tahan tgk diorang sakit. I wud go thru labor pain 10 kali lagik as long as diorang tak payah menanggung sakit.. :(

Skang she is much2 better.. makin comel and healthy.. alhamdulilah. And makin melekat dgn aku.. sbb 2-3 hari kat spital asyik la melekattttttt manjang dgn mamanyer.. hehe.. syiokkk.. tapi skang ni kena belajar le pisah2 sket.. Jumaat ni dah start keje beb!!

My Balqis... :)

Byk sgt nak cerita pasal perangai dia nih... dah besar.. dah tinggi dah dia.. I think when she's 10 y.o dah sama tinggi dgn aku kot.. hhehe.. bleh berlakon cam kakak adik kan kan?? muahahah..

She loves her little sister soooo much. U shud see her panggil Sofeya.. "hi sayanggggg.. kakak ader sini okkkk" sgt sweet.. sgt sisterly... Dia selalu tanya.."kenapa sofeya ni comel sgt eh?" I wud say "Semua baby comel" then she will reply "No la.. sofeya ni paling comel.. tak ada baby lain comel mcm dia.. kenapa eh" hehehe...

Hari ni dia start nak van from sekolah balik rumah. Dulu2 maid or aku akan ambik, but since dah nak balik keje..takkan maid nak angkut Sofeya jalan jauh2 gitu kan? So aku arrange van sekolah dia hantar ke rumah.

I was sooo nerves balqis nak naik van, sampai semlm termimpi2 yg uncle bas tu hantar balqis to the wrong house... iskkk..

My MAID.

hmmm... tak habis2 citer maid dari maid dulu sampai maid skang kan? hehhe... well, this maid i tell u.. SAIKO ok... mcm2 la pe-el... selagi buleh mmg ler kitorang sefamily nak tolerate.. tapi klu dah kuar citer ngarut2 mcm "mak saya dah meninggal tapi dia dtg jumpa saya mlm2 cakap itu ini".. hmm.. nak ke stay dgn maid ni?

I DUN THINK SO.

so we requested for change. agent aku plak buleh tahan ngok ngek.. besa la kan.. mula2 tu semua ok.. indah belaka. time nak tukar ni.. mcm2 la alasan nak lambat2. so skang ni sbb nak raya, tak de org nak dtg.. kena la tahan dgn maid ni sampai lepas raya.

Leceh la beb nak tukar2 maid nih.. penat2 aku train.. camtu jugeekk.. nak simpan.. sakit jiwa.. nak tukar.. kang tahapa lagik yg dpt.

Why la mak aku ni tak mo dok umah jaga cucu???

Maid dah sampai!!!

YABADABADOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Good bye mesin/sidai/angkat and GOSOK baju
Good bye BASUH PINGGAN
Good bye sapu sampah/mop lantai/lap habuk (mcm ler aku dok buat)

Memasak jer yg aku tak outsource... sebabnyer *ehem* husband *ehem* and *ehem* anak *ehem* aku *ehem* suka *ehem* sgt *ehem* masakan *ehem* aku*ehem*

Rumah aku skang habuk free and berkilat2 ok…

Memula dah siap schedule apa nak suruh maid tu buat..like sapu sampah/mop lantai/lap habuk must be done daily..

Sekalik tuh sehari sampai 3 kali dia sapu sampah… mak oiii.. aku ni sepanjang ketiadaan maid pegang penyapu pun 3 kali jer kot…

Pembersih ya amat… aku tgh masak pun dia sibuk dok lap2 dapur.. sampai aku naik rimas.. terpaksa halau dia “gi gosok baju dulu..nanti saya habis masak baru kemas dapur”

1st impression ok la.. biasa2.. oh well.. maid aku yg dulu pun 1st impression ok.. so tgk la mcm mana…

Balqis as usual excited. But still tanya “ma.. nanti baby kuar kak rahsia (maid lama) balik sini kan?” iskk…haru…

Phewww… tetiba rasa cam tak de menda nak buat kat rumah...

Mana maid????

Menci tauuu… dah sebulan dah niehhh… takkan nak tunggu aku beranak kot?Sampaikan aku dgn Mr Photographer dok pk, kalau kasik choice, kasik balik lah duit deposit tuh… tak yah la maid.. cam dah biasa plak tak de maid.. ok jer.. (except pk sapa nak ambik balqis balik sekolah)

Speaking of that, luckily my cousin (acu) yg keje with my parents ada kat KL, so we asked her to help pick balqis from school, hantar rumah kak ani. Sib baik ada acu ader.. ni pun acu tgh jobhopping..esok2 kalau acu tak der.. how la… huwaaaaaaaaa

Now instead of kuar rumah kol 7.15 pagi, we all kuar rumah kol 8 sbb nak hantar Balqis dulu. Luckily sempat jugak nak sampai ofis by 8.45.

Mcm dah paham keadaan mak bapak dia yg tak de maid.. dia yg dok tanya.. “ma.. bila maid nak sampai?” and now the grandparents dah balik Taiping.. she asked me “ma.. tok and tokwan dah tak de ni siapa nak hantar and ambik adik balik sekolah?”

U see.. normally when the grandparents are around, I will prepare siap2 beg sekolah + beg baju nak bawak rumah kak ani. Next morning, the grannys will hantar dia pi sekolah, thari ambik dia and hantar ke rumah kak ani, with the beg baju sekali.

Then on Tuesday, mummy daddy supposed to hantar Balqis pi school, Acu will pick her up and hantar pi rumah kak ani.

Aku pun.. prepare lah beg2 apa yg patut.

Come Tuesday morning, time nak kuar rumah kol 8 pagi, suddenly she asked me..”Ma.. beg nak bawak rumah mak long tu bila nak hantar?”

Erkkkk.. aku terkedu… “oh ya la ekkkk!!!”

Iskkk.. I totally forgot about it… dah kol 8 beb.. takkan nak pi rumah kak ani lagi.. mana sempat.. iskk.. why la didn’t I think of the beg? Why la day b4 tak pack brg siap2?

Bijaknyer anak mama.. (cover lah kan..takkan nak cakap aku ni yg tak bijak plakk..muehehhe)

End up.. we left the beg baju kat guard house.. minta tlg Acu to ambik the beg lepas dia pick balqis from school…

Lesson learnt.. spare baju and susu kat rumah kak ani… and be thankful that your daughther is so clever!

Tapinyer..pandai2 anak aku pun… pandai jugak dia meng-auta mak dia niehh..

Like few weeks ago..

We just had lunch at home. As usual, lepas makan mmg aku tak kasik dia baring… then after 5 minutes she asked..

Balqis: Ma, sekarang bleh baring tak?
Me: Kenot..
Balqis: hmm.. ok

(muka tgh pk camner nak baring jugak..)

Balqis: ermm.. ma… adik nak pergi duduk dlm bilik kejap ek..

(dlm hati aku.. sah2 dia nak baring neihhh)

Me: Duduk jer la kat sini.. naper nak duduk dlm bilik plak..
Balqis: Adik sonok duduk dlm bilik.. adik tak takut sorang2…
Me: ermm.. ok…

(aku plak muka tgh pk camner nak buat reverse saiko nak mengantoikan auta budak ni)
Then halfway dia dah jalan masuk bilik

Me: Balqis… becareful ek duduk jer tau, jgn baring.. Tuhan can see what you are doing.. nanti Tuhan marah kalau tipu mama…

And u know wat… dia pun berlari2 lah ketakutan dtg balik kat aku… sambil sengih2 dgn muka bersalah dia…

MUAHAHHAHAHAHAHHA

Ohhhhh.. ada hati nak auta mama ek?

Lagi satu… malas nak solat.. erghh..geram aku…

She knows.. that we have to pray 5 times a day, and she knows all the waktu2.. Subuh… Isya’. Normally maghrib and Isya we will pray together. Time maghrib la dia paling M.A.L.A.S sekali nak ikut solat, sbb time tu la dia nak main PSP la, tgk kartun la..

I constantly tell her

Me: Nanti Allah marah
Balqis: Alaaa..nak main PSP
Me: Fine.. nanti Allah marah, adik dpt dosa.. I dunno ek…
Balqis: ala ma…. Please la…..
Me: naper ma plak.. bukan mama yg marah..
Balqis: ok lah..nanti Isya’ adik sembahyang.. adik say sorry la to Allah…

Eerkk.. bley ke gitu?

Speaking of PLEASE....

U know.. feveret phrase Balqis skang (since few weeks ago) is "PLEASE LA MA......" u really hv to hear her saying it... sbb mcm lawak giler.. and benda tu dok lekat kat mulut dia.. mcm bila tak kasik tgk tv ke, itu ini.. nanti kuar la feveret phrase dia tuhhh..

Sampai phrase ni dah jadi bahan ajukan and gurauan kitorang bertiga.. even Mr Photographer pun kalau nak minta tlg apa2 mesti pakai phrase nih.. hehehe..

And last week we watched AF konsert.. diorang kan ader they own tagline.. yg kdg2 tuh mcm tahpahapa jer... so we were saying..kalau Balqis masuk AF kan (nauzubillah) her tagline would be.."HI..SAYA BALQIS DARI KL, AFUNDI BALQIS!! PLEASE LA MA.........."

hehehe.. i know i know kurang lawak and kurang paham kalau citer sini.. but aku dgn Mr Photographer gelak guling2 bila we talked about this..

Lesson learnt.. jgn kasik anak masuk AF.

She is gone…

After almost 5 years.. finally my maid dah balik.

Sedih? Sket la… tak der la sampai melalak. Tipu lah kalau tak sedih kan.. almost 5 tahun beb.. mmg ler byk aku sakit hati and geram dgn dia.. but as a whole.. okay la… not bad. I consider myself as one of the lucky employer.. sbb selalu sgt dgr citer pasal maid yg bukan2 kan… so minah ni considered ok lah…

Time dia nak balik..salam peluk cium Balqis.. as expected mmg melalak lah maid aku nih. Ye la.. jaga Balqis since lahir. Kalau aku pun nangis ye dok?

Si balqis plak.. rilek jer.. she told her kakak (we call her ‘kakak’) “Kak jgn nangis ye… baik2 tau!”

U see.. I have told Balqis repeatedly since weeks ago that kakak is going back for good. She seems ok. So I tot, ok lah kot budak nih.. tak de problem lah aku dia dok rindu randa ke apa ke…

SEKALIK TUHH

Semlm kot Balqis told me

Balqis: Ma.. kakak balik sini July kan?
Me: No lah..kakak tak dtg sini lagi…

Muka Balqis dah lain mcm….

Balqis: Kenapa????
Me: Kan kakak dah balik kampung… dia tak dtg sini dah.. adik kan duduk day care sekarang… nanti july kita ambik lah kakak baru ok?
Balqis: NAK KAKAK RAHSIA!!!!!!

Aku terkedu sat…

Me: ok lah ok lah…

Ntah apa yg aku ok pun aku tatau… I just want her to stop crying.

Haiyooooooo

Aku rasa dia belum terima hakikat maid balik for good. Owwwwww nooooooooo… Dun ask me how she conclude July kakak is coming back.. I guess she assumes once baby kuar kakak will be here again…

How la?

Happy New year..

Belum lambat lagi kan nak wish?

So what have we achieved last year?

- kawen.. yeay yeay…
- keje baru (ni mcm evey year ada muehehehhe)
- ajar tuition part time..
- Balqis masuk tadika
- jual kancil, bought motorcycle (btw nama motor tu nicholas)

So what we wanna do next year?

Well.. I can say towards the end of last year sampai hari ni, a LOT of things happened. Mainly, ada 2 benda besar dlm kepala aku sekarang…

Firstly, like I said in my previous entry, I am maidless now.

Sometime mid Dec haritu the maid mention to me dia nak balik for good, tak mo renew permit lagik. Anak dia kat indon problem, sakit itu ini yada yada yada. Aku pun okay.. since dia pun cakap awal2, I said nanti habis contract (mid Feb) tak yah renew dah la.

Tup tup about 1 week ago dia kata kat aku, kalau buleh nak balik 5 Jan nih, which giving me less than 2 weeks notice. Dgn sekolah balqis nak start, dgn parents aku still in Taiping, who’s gonna take care of balqis?

Aku hangin. Dia insist nak balik. Gedebak gedebuk gedebak gedebuk, end up balik jugak la dia 5 Jan ni. Aku panic!!!

In less than a week, aku dgn Mr Photographer pening and kalut memikirkan sapa nak jaga balqis. Pk punya pk, bincang itu ini, we decided, hantar Balqis kat day care, no maid for the time being.

Luckily, ada day care baru bukak around the corner, dekat dgn tadika dia. We settled for the registration, transport etc about 2 days ago.So semlm, even tho maid is still around, Balqis dah tak sabar2 nak pergi day care. Kol 11.30 maid send her, and 6 pm Mr Photographer ambik dia balik.

Ikut kata Balqis.. seronok sgt duduk situ, ada kawan nama Aishah (anak owner, umur sama dgn Balqis) Main mak-mak, main kejar2, makan, mandi, belajar Iqra’. Esok nak pergi lagi!!!

Fuhhhh…. Lega aku ok!!!

This morning got a chance to borak dgn the owner.She said Balqis baik budaknya.. best fren dgn anak saya… tapi tak nak tidur sbb excited sgt main.

So, hopefully, Balqis will be ok kat situ, sbb aku mmg dah tak larat nak ambik maid. Duit beribu raban lagik.. dgn perangai tak tentu hala lagik kan?

BUT..

We feel that this maidless thing is temporary jekk.. paling lama pun sampai July nih… sebab apa? Sebabnya ialah tak lain tak bukan benda kedua besar dalam kepala aku skang, or.. errmm.. to be exact dlm perut aku skang.. hehehe…

Yes yes… I’m PREGNANT. – 12 weeks to be exact.

So this explains why aku suka merapu lately, and aku malas update blog lately. U know lah.. 1st trimester.. dugaan hebat betul ok. So I dowan to be posting benda2 merapu all the time kat sini.

I dowan to be updating about sedih, marah, geram, geram, sedih, marah, marah, geram, sedih ALL THE TIME u see…

Coz what I have been going thru for the past 3 mths is air mata, muntah, pening, loya, muntah, nangis, stress, pressure, muntah, pening, loya, mengamuk, marah, pening. Ok, I think u got the idea.

Now the symptoms are slowly going away. Pls pls pls go away… I want to enjoy my pregnancy in PEACE!

Mr Photographer happy (duhhhh…mesti lah happy) and siapa lagi paling happy kalau bukan Balqis. Tak sabar2 nak dpt adik. Dah bagi nama ok kat adik dia.. siap berebut dgn Mr Photographer nak kasik nama apa. Balqis said to us, dia nak adik pompuan jer… kalau boy dia tak mo… boy notty!

I said kalau dpt boy camner? She said kalau dpt boy kasik kat org lain… hehehhe

Ada ke patut…

Tapi skang aku dah berjaya brainwash dia.. boy ke girl ke mesti sayang jugak ok?

So back to our maid/pregnancy story.

We hope to be maid less sampai dpt baby ni lah… duit pun jimat.. sumerang pun happy. Lepas dpt baby.. tgk lah camner.. either ambik maid baru.. or kot2 kitorang dah jadik millionaire ke masa tuh bleh aku resign keje dok umah jaga anak…kuikuikui.. syok ek berangan?

So korang.. doakan aku anak beranak sihat dan selamat dan sihat selalu..

p/s - pagi ni ayah Mazlina Mohd dah kembali ke rahmatullah. Salam takziah from kami sekeluarga. Semoga rohnya dicucuri rahmat. Al-fatihah utk arwah.

Denggi!!!

Last Tuesday, maid ngadu headache. So I gave her painkiller. After work, she said she has fever. So I gave her both ubat demam and painkiller. Esoknya, belum baik, so brought her to clinic.

On Friday, demam belum surut2.. brought to clinic again, Dr buat blood test, kasik jab painkiller yg power sket, and kasik antibiotics. Esoknyer kan aku ke penang.. I asked maid to call me just in case any emergency.

Klinik called and informed the white blood cell count was low, so kena bawak balik check. Lepas balik on Sunday, maid said the fever is gone, headache also gone, Cuma gatal2 mcm naik ruam satu badan… uiksss..cam denggi beb..

On Monday, we brought her to clinic again, Dr tengok symptom mcm bukan denggi, but as precaution, buat another blood test. Dr suspect the ruam2 is caused by allergy by the antibiotics.

Tuesday, clinic called and informed white blood cell count is dropping…admit dgn segera!!!

Owwww noooooo…

Tanya HKL, rupanya they charge foreigners much much more expensive than us Malaysians. Apa nak buat..tu jer la pun yg paling murah.

So semlm, we went to HKL.

Hmmmmmmmmmm….. perlu ke aku explain further pasal HKL?

Camni la… mula2 kat kaunter pendaftaran tu jer dah tahpahapa..

I was being friendly.. Tanya elok2..

“ramai org tak dik? Lama ke tunggu?”

And the girl answered dgn muka muka nye sekali…

“ramai tu tak lerrrrrrrrr… tapi kang cakap tak lama kangggg..susah la plak kannnnnnnnnn”

Hek elehhhhh…. Tenyeh muka kang baru tahu… eksyen… podahhhh

So we followed la the procedure in government hospital, which takes like urmmm.. 2 hours?? Lebih kurang la…. Pergi sana sini,.. tunggu,…masuk bilik itu ini..

And finally the Dr (thank God very friendly and pleasant looking) confirm the blood count dah increase.. so tak payah admit..

Fuh lega bebbbb

Kalau x mana aku nak cekau duit nak bayo bil spital?

Since maid was sick… Balqis aku hantar ke rumah kak ani.. tak mo la plak jangkit kan? Dah 2 hari ponteng sekolah nih.. InsyaAllah kalau esok dah baik.. baru ler aku berani tinggal balqis dgn maid.

Denggi!!!

Last Tuesday, maid ngadu headache. So I gave her painkiller. After work, she said she has fever. So I gave her both ubat demam and painkiller. Esoknya, belum baik, so brought her to clinic.

On Friday, demam belum surut2.. brought to clinic again, Dr buat blood test, kasik jab painkiller yg power sket, and kasik antibiotics. Esoknyer kan aku ke penang.. I asked maid to call me just in case any emergency.

Klinik called and informed the white blood cell count was low, so kena bawak balik check. Lepas balik on Sunday, maid said the fever is gone, headache also gone, Cuma gatal2 mcm naik ruam satu badan… uiksss..cam denggi beb..

On Monday, we brought her to clinic again, Dr tengok symptom mcm bukan denggi, but as precaution, buat another blood test. Dr suspect the ruam2 is caused by allergy by the antibiotics.

Tuesday, clinic called and informed white blood cell count is dropping…admit dgn segera!!!

Owwww noooooo…

Tanya HKL, rupanya they charge foreigners much much more expensive than us Malaysians. Apa nak buat..tu jer la pun yg paling murah.

So semlm, we went to HKL.

Hmmmmmmmmmm….. perlu ke aku explain further pasal HKL?

Camni la… mula2 kat kaunter pendaftaran tu jer dah tahpahapa..

I was being friendly.. Tanya elok2..

“ramai org tak dik? Lama ke tunggu?”

And the girl answered dgn muka muka nye sekali…

“ramai tu tak lerrrrrrrrr… tapi kang cakap tak lama kangggg..susah la plak kannnnnnnnnn”

Hek elehhhhh…. Tenyeh muka kang baru tahu… eksyen… podahhhh

So we followed la the procedure in government hospital, which takes like urmmm.. 2 hours?? Lebih kurang la…. Pergi sana sini,.. tunggu,…masuk bilik itu ini..

And finally the Dr (thank God very friendly and pleasant looking) confirm the blood count dah increase.. so tak payah admit..

Fuh lega bebbbb

Kalau x mana aku nak cekau duit nak bayo bil spital?

Since maid was sick… Balqis aku hantar ke rumah kak ani.. tak mo la plak jangkit kan? Dah 2 hari ponteng sekolah nih.. InsyaAllah kalau esok dah baik.. baru ler aku berani tinggal balqis dgn maid.

Back to work

Honeymoon is over!

Today first day in the office after almost 2 weeks leave.
Exam is over... satu kelegaan yg teramat sangat!
Maid is back, which means my leave is over, and I have to get back to office and kenot spend time with balqis like we did for the past 2 weeks...:(... gonna miss her so much..

Too many thing to update...let's start with last nite..

Maid's flight was suppose to arrive at 10.20 pm. Me, balqis, am, sham and liza went to pick her up. Sampai2 dlm 10.30 gitu... saw the sign.."UBAH MASA"..."RETIMED" "1.00 am"

haaaaa??? 3 more hours?? ingat KLIA sebelah umah aku ke?

iskkk...liza has to get back home by 12, balqis tgh tido lena dlm kete.. how how how??
felt so guilty to everyone.. maid aku punya pasal...5 -5 org kena drag pegi KLIA...

we decided to send liza home, and lepak rumah am dulu. Knowing Air Aisa, 1 am pon belum tentu sampai. Demn.. dah la the next morning kena kerja.

Around 12.30 called Air Asia, they said the flight baru bertolak from KL to medan.. so should arrive back to KL around 2 am.

1.30 am, bertolak from subang to KLIA, the flight finally landed at 2.15 am.... 3.30 baru sampai rumah, ding dong ding dong, 4 am baru tido.

perghh...i tot after finish exam no need to stay up some more... ni lagi parah... dlm kereta, i was actually struggling to stay awake sbb nak teman driver.

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2 weeks leave was heaven.. My mom and sis helped to take care of Balqis while I study. However the final week Balqis was sick. Kesian pulak nak tinggalkan dia. So I stayed at my sis's place and helped take care of Balqis and her cousin's (total 4 of them).

Macam bukak tadika wa cakap lu!! I really enjoyed taking care of the kids.

Occupying them with activities mcm drawing, singing, watching TV, cooking for them... wonderful!!

We even have our own AF singing audition...kekkee... funny la the kids.. I think they enjoyed having me and Balqis around too. They even asked " esok cuna dgn balqis dtg lagi tak?"

I think one day I will bukak a tadika..Insya Allah...

Summary of updates

been malas and busy lately..

1. baru baik sorethroat...suara baru ada balik..for few days suara tak keluar...seksa wa cakap lu.. syukur la ada suara boleh cakap..
2. results last sem are out..syukur...B+ for both subjects. no more 4 flet, but happy sgt2... coz xm mmg tough giler... ingatkan fail dah...sayang dr O!! btw classes dah start, sunday tak der class coz rescheduled to saturday evening! yeabadabado!!!!!
3. kak seri, maid kak ani dah balik indon. dah abih 2 tahun, the hubby wants her to come back. kindda miss her oredi... balqis also miss her, although i think she does not understand that kak seri is going back for good.
4. after few years, 1st time buat facial last monday kat euro sense melawati.. uikss..best la plak buat facial...hmmmm...ni yg bergoyang iman nih....plus rjbc mcm dah tak der effect jer pon kat muka..

okes...tak leh panjang2...akak nak pegi makan nasik kandar kat kg attap...ader farewell lunch ofis mate... hek hek... camner nak kurus?

Berita hari ini

Today betul2 mcm "sudah jatuh ditimpa tangga"..pas tu tergolek dog plak tuh!! errghhhh!!! tensen!

My maid's permit gonna expire on the 14 Feb. So after medical checkup etc, today I took time off in the morning to go to imigration in damansara to renew her permit. Sampai sana..

Officer : Kenapa tak renew pasport dia dulu?
Me : Huh? nak kena renew pasport?
Officer : Ye la...paspost dia lagi 2 bulan nak mati...tak boleh rebew permit lagi mcm ni. kalau nak renew utk sebulan je.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kenapala aku tak check pasport dia mati bila!!!! rasa mcm nak hantuk kepala kat dinding pon ader!!

Me : alamak...abih tu camne ye? nak renew pasport buat camne?
Officer : kena pegi embassy, 3 hari baru dpt. lepas tu baru dtg sini balik
Me : Sempat ke? permit dia mati 14 hb, kalau lewat boleh ke?
Officer : Tak pe, kita ambik date cik dtg hari ni. Nanti dtg jumpa saya balik. Cik pergi embasy hari ni terus la.

Dayeeeemmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!

Warning : hari ni nyer post mmg byk sumpah seranah!!

So I called kak ani, told her the situation, called ofis, took emergency leave and went back home. Me, maid and balqis went to indonesian embassy in jln tun razak. The Indon people there I tell u.... fuiyoo..mcm crowd nak pi tgk mawi nyer konsert kot...
I tot nak renew pasport kena mausk ofis, ambik nombor, ofis bleh duduk, ada aircond yg best2...

I was ssssoooooooooooo demn wrong!!

masuk2 gate yg lawa jer kena halau..."sana yaa....sini untuk mobil....paspor semua sana..." the guard pointing at the crowd. shit shit shit!!!

went there, mcm tak de hala tuju, tempat open air, indon people everywhere, no sit, no information kaunter. panic kejap..balqis started merengek nak balik oredi. i asked around, the ppl said beratur kat kaunter 1 atau 2. so we queued la... the queue... hmm..camner nak describe ye, mcm org nak beli tiket konsert mawi kot...hehe...(apadaaa sume guna eg mawi)

after 10 mins queue, mcm tak sedap hati coz everyone is holding some kindda form, so i asked around, "nak perbaharui paspor kena isi borang ka?"
indon ppl - " kena..ambil di kaunter 6"

i went to kaunter 6, tutup!!! so i just redah kaunter 5, tanya..."pakk... mau perbaharui paspor mcm mana ya?"
indon pak - " 4 keping gambar, belakang mesti merah... salinan paspor"

adusss!!!!! gambar kena merah plak!!!! ni aku nak HANGIN satu badan lagik nih....

luckily my maid ni peramah, so we asked the girl belakang her to jaga our place, we wnet to take her photo and copy the pasport. kat photocopy ofis got aircond, legaaaaa...so stayed there with balqis, asked my maid to go and line up since the maid only need to be there, the majikan tak payah.

after 15 mins kot, maid came back..

maid : cuna, kena bayar duit la....lepas tu kena tulis alamat..saya tak tahu..
me : alamak...lupa pulak bagu duit... jom la turun kejap...

at the kaunter...dlm 5-6 ppl lagi in front. i gave her the money and the adress to write. this time balqis started to cry and buat perangai..

"nak naik atas!!!!!!!!! nak kakak!!! !(@&#*&@^$^@!%$^!%@^
dgn org ramai...panas...pasport and document jatuh berterabur...balqis jerit...indon ppl around... OMG!!!

my HANGIN mmg dah naik satu badan.... after 3 very baik punya attempt to take her away form maid unsuccessful, I started to raise my voice to balqis oredi. I asked my maid to put her down so I can carry her. She pegang the palang there kuat2!!!! mcm la aku ni nak kidnap dia!!!!
isssyyyy!! mmg buat scene betulla kat situ!! that time... i was like 98% nak pukul dia dah.. 1st time i felt like hitting her... issyykkk... but liek i said...98% jer...tak pukul pon

maid plak...knowing i was really angry that time... carried balqis and aksed the girl to jaga our place again... she said " tak pe...saya bawa dia naik atas dulu"

balqis mmg dah tersedu2 nangis...wont even look at my face..sampai atas...i asked my maid turun terus... melalak2 la budak tuh..." nak kakak!!!!!!" isssyyykkk... ni lagi sekali rasa mcm nak pukul... hangin tadi tak abih lagi....buat perangai lagik...

after 2-3 minutes..balqis okay la...after dia okay... i started my ceramah.. heheh... kasik sedar sket sama itu budak... buat malu mama jer jerit2 tgh org!!

finally finished, we went out tried to get taxi, coz time dtg tadi ada org hnatar.. so bila tgk kat luar byk taxi, ingat naik jer la taxi. semua tak nak pi melawati.. semua nak charge tak pakai meter... ada org tu.."jauh sgt...kena kona jauh..." tunjuk kena lalu bulatan kampung pandan...

aku pon...dgn hangin tak abih lagik..." jauh menda nya???? lalu jalan ampang jer pon... apsal tak bleh pakai meter plak????"

maid plak interfere...takut aku gaduh plak dgn taxi driver tuh.."tak per la cuna, kita telepon ayie jer suruh ambik..."

byk pulak dugaan hari jumaat nih....sib baik tak terpukul balqis...:( kalau tidak sure nyesal..

Maid.... oh my lovely maid!!!

I have a maid. She has been working with me for the past 3 years. Started working when I was 8 mths pregnant. Going to be 3 yeras this Feb. She is 40 y.o this year. Much2 older than I am. I call her kakak, she calls me cuna (like evryone else in the family). Initially she wanted to call me "Ibu".. i was like.. oh noooo...puhlezzzzz... ibu is for my mother...not me!

anyway... overall she is okay. Workwise- almost perfect. House is clean. Cooking is best!! Balqis is well taken care of.. what else? clothing all okay. the only thing that is lacking is her attitude. She is a bit rude. Not rude...more like she speaks loudly..and harshly..ntah betul ke dak grammar aku...hantam jer la labuuuu....

example...if I ask her.." kak..mana botol balqis?"the kindda reply I'm expecting is " kat dapur"
but her reply would be " ITUUUU...ADA KAT SITUUUU..MANA ADA AMBIKKKK....."
aduiiii....kalau everyday listening to this kindda volume...irritating woooo. But wat to do.. told her already about this. She said her volume is like that one...kenot change.

Lately we had a crisis. She wanted to go back to indon in march together with kak ani's maid. i told her "kenot, coz if you go back with kak seri, who's gonna take care of balqis? " i asked her to compromise, go back earlier, maybe in dec. she said no money. i asked her to go back in june, she said kenot, her brother getting married in april.

pulak dahhh!!!! first no money, then brother getting married??? sure or not? my blood already going up. i discussed with my parents. we decided, if she still dowan to compromise, we'll get another maid.

so last few nites we discussed with her. asked her to decide, if u still wanna work u go back in june. else we will take other maid. but of course, in a very polite way la...and in a way that she feels appreciated. takut jugak later she do something bad to balqis ke...mampuih...

the next day, she told me she will go back in june...heheh..she still wants to work here.. yeayyy!!
mission completed!!!

any way...it's a win win situation for me. if want to get other maid, problem jugak. dunno how the work, dunno if she can take care of balqis, dunno the attitude. current maid. work ok. attitude rude a bit, but i know she is a nice person and kind hearted. never tinggal sembahyang - most importantly!

now in the process of renewing her permit for the next year. Hope she will work with me as long as possible!

Sori la kak ye..tahun ni tak de increment..economic krisis...hehe.. Insya Allah next year ada.

Jealous!

Weekends, sapatutnyer time nak spend dgn balqis... wat happened was that, si kecik tu sikit2, "nak kakak!!" or.."nak makan dengan kakak", "kakak tido sini", "mana kakak?" )(*&*&^*&%&^$%$#$$ errghhhh!!!!!!!!

jealous?? yes, maybe...but most importantly is because i hate her..yes, i hate the maid. and i dont like my princess rapat2 sgt the ppl i dont like. i dont mind she being close to my mom ke, my sis ke, my frens ke, but not her!!

on friday nite, fatin was asking balqis.."

fatin : balqis sayang mama ke kakak?
balqis : kakak!
fatin : balqis sayang kakak ke mama?
balqis : kakak!

OMG!!! berasapnyer aku!!!!!

then yesterday pulak, nak bawak dia pi klcc..sampai jer kat keter..

balqis : mana kakak?
me : kakak kat rumah
balqis :(dgn muka nak nangis) nak kakak! kakak pi klcc jugak!
me : tak payah la...kakak dok rumah, adik pi klcc dgn mama
balqis : (dah nangis) nak kakak!!!!!
me : ok ok...kakak dah tunggu kat klcc (dah malas nak layan + sakit hati)

see???? and i kenot help it but to think ...errrmmm...not good....u know.... but i think the root cause of the problem is that i do not spend much time with her. i'm at home at nite but i'll be studying with my frens, she will be upstairs with the maid. mana la budak tu tak sayang maid. hmmmmm